In this episode, I’m breaking down what growth actually feels like — not the highlight reel version, but the real, uncomfortable, messy middle we all have to move through. I call it the river of misery — the space between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming.

I walk you through the four phases of growth:

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   Awareness & Fear – that moment you realize you want more and it scares the hell out of you.

   
   


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   Test, Learn & Create – where you start trying things, failing, learning, and doing it again.

   
   


3. 
   

   Discover & Play – when you start trusting yourself and experimenting more freely.

   
   


4. 
   

   Understanding & Becoming – when your new identity starts to feel real.

   
   

This episode is your reminder that discomfort doesn’t mean you’re off track — it means you’re evolving.



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Takeaways:

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  Growth is messy and uncomfortable — and that’s the point.

  
  


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  Awareness often brings fear, but it’s the start of transformation.

  
  


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  The “river of misery” is where real change happens.

  
  


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  Discomfort = progress.

  
  


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  Self-awareness is your best tool in the hard parts.

  
  


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  Learn to respond to your inner critic, not obey it.

  
  


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  Self-trust is built in the middle, not at the finish line.

  
  


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  The goal isn’t to skip discomfort, it’s to move through it.

  
  


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  Growth feels like chaos before it feels like clarity.

  
  


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  You’re not lost — you’re becoming.